"All You Can Say Is Drugs, Sex, and Tragedy?"

I’ve spent most of my life being a quiet person and an observer but when it comes to certain people in my life, that I hold dear and I know was a God connection, I’m selflessly motivated to be transparent, motivated by my relationship with Christ and what is in my heart, in hopes that I can shed a positive light and love. 

My heart is broken today by how Whitney and Bobbi Kris have been publicly portrayed in death. I'm somewhat speechless. This is all horrible. I haven’t seen the new Whitney film and my prayer is that it is not focused on what the reviews and the public are targeting, and I honestly believe it will be insightful. 

I feel deeply saddened by the fact that yet another part of her life that brought her pain is now the center of discussion. I was in tears. Not only because of what was revealed, but because of what wasn't said. How she became who she was in spite of it. Im kind of at a loss for words reading how she is perceived and what everyone has concluded she felt. She felt different ways over time, at different times, like anyone else! Not just one sad tragic way!  Not just one tragically portrayed way! Who could be that sad, troubled, damaged, weak, all these negative descriptions and portrayals of her, and consistently feel that way for over 40 years of life straight, and survive accomplishing all that she did!!!!! That is the consistent overall portrait of her life that has so far been painted overall, targeted, and focused upon in life, and in death! You can’t tell me that someone out there didn’t know a more positive Whitney to portray. 

WHERE IS THE PORTRAYAL OF WHITNEY HOUSTON who in spite of all that life and people threw at her still accomplished becoming the greatest singer in the world??? Im sick of the portrayal of Whitney Houston as this lost damaged drug addict self destructive person as told by many individuals whose paycheck was dependent upon her will to continue to champion life, and her continued breathing to even be able to draw that next breath that supported the incredible sound resonating from her entire being! 

Let me be clear.  Im not talking about Whitney’s family, who are also enduring this public spectacle… Yes, they are going to tell her story from their perspective as is their right to do, but how many people do you know, including yourself, has disclosed and told their family members how they really feel about the darkest areas, the most difficult struggles, their greatest secrets, their most transparent assessment of the events taking place in their lives?! It is most commonly held in sacred confidence by the individual, or someone trusted to never betray that trust and the thoughts and feelings that were shared in confidence, or, not ever shared at all! Thats where the truth is about who she was and how she felt and the real answers to all the whys! The rest is just biased speculation based in partial truths. 

It is human nature to protect the sanctity of family, by keeping some things private, understanding that what you say and do is a reflection on your loved ones and not just yourself. Whitney Houston understood this and was selective in what she shared for a purpose.  Her God given right to choose what was made public, to the best of her ability was exercised while she was living, thus the interviews. The rest is known only by God and Whitney Houston. Everything else is just bits and pieces from the perspective of the rest of the participants in her life. The legacy of Whitney is so insurmountably greater than the tragedy, or THE ENTIRE WORLD WOULD NOT PAUSE AT HER PASSING, the true assessment of the worlds view of her contribution to history, preceding all that has been said about her in death. 

The heart of who Whitney is truly, only her mother holds a piece of, regardless of what Whitney did in her life  or didn't do, because she is the one person who has known her from the moment she arrived with the observation of who she grew up to be, loving unconditionally, the way only a mother can in relationship with her children.  She may not know the details of every moment, but she knows the essence, the spirit of who Whitney Houston is. Only God knows the rest. 

The only other people that truly know are those who have held the most intimate, private feelings from Whitney’s mouth in confidence.  In the same manner you choose who you can trust to never betray your confidence, she also chose. Im exhausted by the portrait of Whitney that has been painted. I pray to God that this film champions her strength and tenacity, her brilliance, her fight to hold on to God and Christ thus allowing her to keep going on in life as long as she did, her loving and generous heart and spirit, her willingness to live and enjoy life under the microscope of judgement and public scrutiny and criticism (no matter how hard she tried to overcome media representation of her life while she was living), her joys, her triumphs, her love for her daughter and family, motherhood, and her relentless will to live life on her own terms by the grace of God while creating social change globally! Where is that story? Show me that movie.  That film. That portrayal. It’s very real. 

Do you honestly believe that off stage and off camera over the course of, her entire career that there were no moments of significance where conscious decisions and planning and implementation of plans to change something in this world were not made and discussed and carried out?  The majority of the world has no reference for these accomplishments in her life because that has not been the media and public focus.  There was more to her than drugs and sex and tragedy, in the same manner as there is more to each of us than whatever our faults and frailties and tragic times are.  WAY MORE. I pray "THAT" is in this film.  Rest In Heavenly Peace Whitney Houston. 

By Pattie Howard © PH Balanced Music 2018.  All Rights Reserved

 

13 comments

  • Janice Brantley

    Janice Brantley OKC Ok

    I love Whitney Houston! Rest in God's kingdom!!!

    I love Whitney Houston! Rest in God's kingdom!!!

  • Dirlene Rangel Moura

    Dirlene Rangel Moura Brazil

    Whitney always will be The Greatest Singer Of All Time!!! Love you Whitney!! 💜💜NBL💜💜

    Whitney always will be The Greatest Singer Of All Time!!! Love you Whitney!! 💜💜NBL💜💜

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous

    Thank you so much Pattie. I’m 41 years old and I have loved Whitney Houston all my life. She is the greatest singer ever. Never in my life have I seen someone get this type of treatment in death. Sadly Her family members and those like Ellin Lavarr, Ricky Minor, Bobby Brown have lost their souls. They Will say anything for some money. They have now decided to partake in the kind of media frenzy which added to Whitney’s pain. I am disgusted by someone like Ellin Lavarr who knew how private Whitney was. How much she valued privacy yet Ellin has been on a mission to speak about Whitney like she was an animal. If you know Ellin personally, please tell her what she has been doing is wrong and disgraceful. Whitney kept Ellin on payroll and this the thanks she gets. Whitney’s life has been dissected for media fodder. The family including Pat Houston wants to ruin Whitney Houston’s story. We are waiting for a celebratory documentary. This will not be it. The family has caused even more damage.

    Thank you so much Pattie. I’m 41 years old and I have loved Whitney Houston all my life. She is the greatest singer ever. Never in my life have I seen someone get this type of treatment in death. Sadly Her family members and those like Ellin Lavarr, Ricky Minor, Bobby Brown have lost their souls. They Will say anything for some money. They have now decided to partake in the kind of media frenzy which added to Whitney’s pain. I am disgusted by someone like Ellin Lavarr who knew how private Whitney was. How much she valued privacy yet Ellin has been on a mission to speak about Whitney like she was an animal. If you know Ellin personally, please tell her what she has been doing is wrong and disgraceful. Whitney kept Ellin on payroll and this the thanks she gets. Whitney’s life has been dissected for media fodder. The family including Pat Houston wants to ruin Whitney Houston’s story. We are waiting for a celebratory documentary. This will not be it. The family has caused even more damage.

  • Michael

    Michael Amsterdam

    Dear Patti, Thank you so much for this insight and your commentary. From the 80s Andrae Crouch recordings when I found out the names of his incredible singers, to your contributions to the many records all of you lended your glorious vocals I knew you all were Good people. I screamed my lungs out when you performed with Whitney in Rotterdam, the Bodyguard Tour. Thank you for all that, that great record The Vision, and now this. Thank You!

    Dear Patti, Thank you so much for this insight and your commentary. From the 80s Andrae Crouch recordings when I found out the names of his incredible singers, to your contributions to the many records all of you lended your glorious vocals I knew you all were Good people. I screamed my lungs out when you performed with Whitney in Rotterdam, the Bodyguard Tour. Thank you for all that, that great record The Vision, and now this. Thank You!

  • pattiehoward

    pattiehoward

    Thank you Michael. There is a scripture that says "give honor to whom honor is due." There is much honor due to artists like Whitney, Andrae, Michael and others. In my entire career, I've never seen any artist treated this way, and then it continue after death to the degree it's happening to Whitney. Unacceptable. There are way too many positive accomplishments by this once in a lifetime Mega Star for this to be happening. If indeed people are genuinely concerned for her, then the passing of Whitney and Bobbi Kris should be tragic enough for people to only speak of their sympathies and remember how positively her music and presence impacted their lives as they listened to the voice of the century.

    Thank you Michael. There is a scripture that says "give honor to whom honor is due." There is much honor due to artists like Whitney, Andrae, Michael and others. In my entire career, I've never seen any artist treated this way, and then it continue after death to the degree it's happening to Whitney. Unacceptable. There are way too many positive accomplishments by this once in a lifetime Mega Star for this to be happening. If indeed people are genuinely concerned for her, then the passing of Whitney and Bobbi Kris should be tragic enough for people to only speak of their sympathies and remember how positively her music and presence impacted their lives as they listened to the voice of the century.

  • Michael

    Michael Amsterdam

    Dear Patti, Thank you for your response. Mind you, I was born and raised in a former Dutch colony in South America and have witnessed first hand the impact and power of music even in that faraway remote country Suriname. What Magic, what trick, what power can carry a sound across all those waters. Especially American music and the artists like yourself, Whitney, Andrae, Howard Smith, Alfie, Kristle Murden, Michael and so on. That Winans song For We May Never Know comes to mind. The light you all shoned on this world Will not, can not ever be darkened. Stay strong, your labor Will not be in vain( another Winans Howard Smith song). The many many many groups, singers but even beyond that, those who found courage, inspiration, turned a different corner because of that innate gift bestowed upon you. Forever grateful! Blessings sister!

    Dear Patti, Thank you for your response. Mind you, I was born and raised in a former Dutch colony in South America and have witnessed first hand the impact and power of music even in that faraway remote country Suriname. What Magic, what trick, what power can carry a sound across all those waters. Especially American music and the artists like yourself, Whitney, Andrae, Howard Smith, Alfie, Kristle Murden, Michael and so on. That Winans song For We May Never Know comes to mind. The light you all shoned on this world Will not, can not ever be darkened. Stay strong, your labor Will not be in vain( another Winans Howard Smith song). The many many many groups, singers but even beyond that, those who found courage, inspiration, turned a different corner because of that innate gift bestowed upon you. Forever grateful! Blessings sister!

  • Abduel

    Abduel

    Beautifully said Pattie. UGH This world!!!!!

    Beautifully said Pattie. UGH This world!!!!!

  • MIG

    MIG NJ

    Ms.Pattie H. Thank you for always bringing up the light on Nip accomplishments,her hard work and to many she held her hand out to. For her beyond standard music and record settings and so much more. But thank you for once again reminding those that forget that at the end of the night “WH” was Nip with privacy and a soul with feeling, thank you as I know this most be painful for you also. #BrickCityForLife

    Ms.Pattie H. Thank you for always bringing up the light on Nip accomplishments,her hard work and to many she held her hand out to. For her beyond standard music and record settings and so much more. But thank you for once again reminding those that forget that at the end of the night “WH” was Nip with privacy and a soul with feeling, thank you as I know this most be painful for you also.

    #BrickCityForLife

  • Nikesh

    Nikesh London

    “The legacy of Whitney is so insurmountably greater than the tragedy“ . Thank you!! #thevoice

    “The legacy of Whitney is so insurmountably greater than the tragedy“ .

    Thank you!!

    #thevoice

  • Angela

    Angela Tx

    Thanks soo much for posting for these words at a time in our lives where everyone should be celebrating her legacy she leave behind. She didnt bring any of what their proclaiming to b the truth up. Let her rest.

    Thanks soo much for posting for these words at a time in our lives where everyone should be celebrating her legacy she leave behind. She didnt bring any of what their proclaiming to b the truth up. Let her rest.

  • Syane Houston

    Syane Houston Campos dos Goytacazes, Brazil

    I totally agree with you Ms.Pattie, Nippy was a wonderful person,These people, do not let her rest in peace, much lack of respect in wanting to earn media, money through a person who is no longer here to defend and clarify all this. Whitney Houston The Voice/NBL I Will Always Love you My Queen!!!

    I totally agree with you Ms.Pattie, Nippy was a wonderful person,These people, do not let her rest in peace, much lack of respect in wanting to earn media, money through a person who is no longer here to defend and clarify all this.
    Whitney Houston The Voice/NBL
    I Will Always Love you My Queen!!!

  • Kimya

    Kimya Chicago

    Patti, This actually started while Krissi was alive, when the family against Krissi's plea allowed Angela Ratchett who was parading around as a friend, and was pulled to the carpet to only admit she was not. The way Angela spoke to lil Krissi on social media was so very low and degrading that Krissi had an internet battle with her and ever since, Krissi was getting slammed on the internet for not being a singer or actress good enough for Angela Ratchet's bio trash, all the time Krissi never asked to...Krissi simply stated no one should play her mother, that the dynasty belongs to her...she never said she wanted to be in the film....DId the family come forth to help Krissi? no they didnt...did anyone? ..Krissi went in a coma during the week that ANgela's film opened on cable TV...folks do not tie in the timeline...Krissi was sad ..it was around the holiday Christmas and she had to watch and read about the bio trash...it was all in the papers the weak portrayal that Angela showed of her mom...Krissi posted on her IG and tweet a barrage of responses and you could tell she was having a rough time....then what did we get after that..a new edition trash pic, another bio trash pic...just year after year garbage about Whitney...you see the fans are fed up...we know who , well at least media tells us that an IN LAW is handling Whitneys image and project...a Pat Houston, who has shown herself to be in many conflicting stories about the fatal day at the hotel and about Krissi...now none of the personal stuff is any of our business...but the business of marketing films and music and what they are feeding Fans are the fans business...we should not be manipulated to pad Pat''s pocket of lies and poor representation...and her attitude towards a LARGE fan base that still holds it down for Whitney...Fans know and feel that she knows that we are still here. Pat and the entire family have proven to be untrustworthy. Whitney's child Krissi was murdered, it is still registered as a cold case...so why in the hell is the killer walking free? they can not resolve that case and arrest one single person? but the estate can roll out and endorse repeat music for our dollars and put out bio trash?...its all too much...SHE DESERVES BETTER...HER CHILD WAS MURDERED...HER FANS HAVE BEEN HIJACKED and MANIPULATED....who do we listen to when we can hear Whitney;s music the same because they are painting a different voice for us...when you hear her voice its honest and the message is clear...but when they throw dirt on her voice, her message is ruined...its not fair to any of us....They wont even admit she is a GOSPEL SINGER...they wont talk about GOD and her being closer than close....SHE SANG LOVE SONGS>>. GOD IS LOVE......her last recording is Eye is on the Sparrow....why cant Pat and the Estate lift her up and hold up the light of GOD...thats all she wanted us to know is that she is a child of GOD and so did Krissi...Krissi would end each text about love and love of God....I believe this is a spiritual study and we can make our own film...we need to do our own documentary...THE FANS...and boycott this one....Im in...whatever you need...lets do our own film.

    Patti,
    This actually started while Krissi was alive, when the family against Krissi's plea allowed Angela Ratchett who was parading around as a friend, and was pulled to the carpet to only admit she was not. The way Angela spoke to lil Krissi on social media was so very low and degrading that Krissi had an internet battle with her and ever since, Krissi was getting slammed on the internet for not being a singer or actress good enough for Angela Ratchet's bio trash, all the time Krissi never asked to...Krissi simply stated no one should play her mother, that the dynasty belongs to her...she never said she wanted to be in the film....DId the family come forth to help Krissi? no they didnt...did anyone? ..Krissi went in a coma during the week that ANgela's film opened on cable TV...folks do not tie in the timeline...Krissi was sad ..it was around the holiday Christmas and she had to watch and read about the bio trash...it was all in the papers the weak portrayal that Angela showed of her mom...Krissi posted on her IG and tweet a barrage of responses and you could tell she was having a rough time....then what did we get after that..a new edition trash pic, another bio trash pic...just year after year garbage about Whitney...you see the fans are fed up...we know who , well at least media tells us that an IN LAW is handling Whitneys image and project...a Pat Houston, who has shown herself to be in many conflicting stories about the fatal day at the hotel and about Krissi...now none of the personal stuff is any of our business...but the business of marketing films and music and what they are feeding Fans are the fans business...we should not be manipulated to pad Pat''s pocket of lies and poor representation...and her attitude towards a LARGE fan base that still holds it down for Whitney...Fans know and feel that she knows that we are still here. Pat and the entire family have proven to be untrustworthy. Whitney's child Krissi was murdered, it is still registered as a cold case...so why in the hell is the killer walking free? they can not resolve that case and arrest one single person? but the estate can roll out and endorse repeat music for our dollars and put out bio trash?...its all too much...SHE DESERVES BETTER...HER CHILD WAS MURDERED...HER FANS HAVE BEEN HIJACKED and MANIPULATED....who do we listen to when we can hear Whitney;s music the same because they are painting a different voice for us...when you hear her voice its honest and the message is clear...but when they throw dirt on her voice, her message is ruined...its not fair to any of us....They wont even admit she is a GOSPEL SINGER...they wont talk about GOD and her being closer than close....SHE SANG LOVE SONGS>>. GOD IS LOVE......her last recording is Eye is on the Sparrow....why cant Pat and the Estate lift her up and hold up the light of GOD...thats all she wanted us to know is that she is a child of GOD and so did Krissi...Krissi would end each text about love and love of God....I believe this is a spiritual study and we can make our own film...we need to do our own documentary...THE FANS...and boycott this one....Im in...whatever you need...lets do our own film.

  • Nita

    Nita USA

    Ms. Howard, thank you so much for writing the positive about Whitney. She touched more lives than we will ever know. She never wanted praise or recognition for any of the charitable things she did. But, I bet you it out weighs all of the negative publicity that she has gotten, and is unfortunately still getting in death. She was one of a kind. No one will ever replace her! Kris’s was one of a kind as well and will never be replaced. Krissi had her mother’s heart. She cared for others too! And, I’m sure that she would have done anything to help someone else who needed it! They both will be greatly missed. Also, the one person that really guarded Whitney and protected her was Robyn Crawford. To this day, she has not shamed her best friend, even in death! If Robyn ever sees this, ( She probably won’t), I thank her for being truly loyal to Whitney, for keeping her legacy, guarding her personal privacy and keeping her in dignity! Thank youPatti as well. You two are amazing!

    Ms. Howard,
    thank you so much for writing the positive about Whitney. She touched more lives than we will ever know. She never wanted praise or recognition for any of the charitable things she did. But, I bet you it out weighs all of the negative publicity that she has gotten, and is unfortunately still getting in death. She was one of a kind. No one will ever replace her! Kris’s was one of a kind as well and will never be replaced. Krissi had her mother’s heart. She cared for others too! And, I’m sure that she would have done anything to help someone else who needed it! They both will be greatly missed. Also, the one person that really guarded Whitney and protected her was Robyn Crawford. To this day, she has not shamed her best friend, even in death! If Robyn ever sees this, ( She probably won’t), I thank her for being truly loyal to Whitney, for keeping her legacy, guarding her personal privacy and keeping her in dignity! Thank youPatti as well. You two are amazing!

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